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31DayReset – Day 30&31


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Day 30 & 31
Day 30 : WRITE YOUR OWN EULOGY
This felt a bit morbid. So morbid that it took me quite sometime (about 4 days) so finally settle down and try to write it. Well, I did try and I still couldn’t find the words. I mean I have the idea in my head but the words won’t form on paper. I’ve torn out quite a number of pages from my journal because of the sketches I struggled with, still the words won’t come alive. I haven’t been satisfied with anything I’ve written.
Initially, I thought my writer’s block was as a result of the nature of the task but now that I think about it, that’s not it. I’ve come to terms that I’m going to die someday, hopefully at a ripe old age and I’d very much like a lovely eulogy to be read at my funeral but I just can’t find the words! It’s almost becoming frustrating. So I’ve decided to take a break. The words will come to me and when they do, I’d be ready with my pen and paper and maybe I’d share then. For now though I’d just focus on living my dreams and bringing alive my Life Narrative

Day 31 : CREATE A VISION BOARD
This is basically a powerful visualization tool that you can create as inspiration for your journey toward your ideal life. It’s more or less a collage of pictures and quotes that serve to remind you of your passion and purpose way beyond this program.
I’ve had a DREAM BOARD in my room for a while now but I haven’t updated it in a while. I’m working on getting some pictures up on it soon.
So yeah it’s the end of the program finally!!! I won’t lie, I was getting tired towards the end (x_x lol) but I’m glad I finished it. It served it’s purpose. Some things are clearer to me now. I’m praying I can seriously implement.
I’m grateful for my accountability partners and for all the love and support, for everything I’ve learned and still learning. Grateful for a new phase and my new job (yeah I got a new job *huge grin*). Grateful for life and for living. Grateful for you!
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

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31DayReset – Day 29


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Day 29 : MAKE A BUCKET LIST.
I’ve had this list for a while. Some things have been accomplished and deleted, some I’m too embarrassed to share. So this is the edited version. Here goes;
1. Go completely natural (hair and body products)
2. Take up Fashion merchandising
3. Shop in Milan (no budget)
4. Live a short while in New York
5. Live in a pent-house apartment
6. Attend a Lifehouse concert
7. Attend a gold/tennis tournament for the heck of it
8. Learn to speak French and Italian
9. Attend a broadway play and at least one opera performance
10. Tour Europe and Asia
11. Quit my 9-5 and run my own business fulltime
12. Vacation (the Caribbean, Hawaii, Tahiti)
13. Watch one live football game at Old Trafford
14. Take a professional writing course
15. All things Apple!
16. Reach amd maintain my goal weight
17. Visit India
18. Mediterranean cruise
19. Own my own home (specifications…)
20. Take a French cooking class
21. Fund-raising for charity
22. Stay at the Burj Al Arab (Dubai)
And lots more…

Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

31DayReset – Day 28


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Today’s Challenge: LET GO OF THE PAST

Today’s exercise was in three parts;
1. Acknowledgment: Make a list of all the things you’re still holding onto from the past. Failed relationships, regrets, hurts, bad experiences…
2. Affirmation: For each experience, find a way to receive closure even if it is a small amount of relief. Think of an affirmation or personal mantra you can apply to the past event that will remove the painful or negative aspect of it and allow you to move on.
3. Absolution: Then destroy your entire list. Tear the page(s) out of your notebook and burn it. Consider this a symbolic “reset ceremony” of starting off the year ahead fresh and unencumbered with your old pain and suffering.

I rarely ever let stuff get to me enough to actually hurt. I can let go of stuff easily but there are hurts that I just lock up somewhere and never really deal with. Those are the real pains I try to forget and pretend never happened, just plaster a smile on my face.
Anyway, for me this exercise was initially daunting. Bringing up stuff I didn’t want to deal with. But I guess if there will ever be a time to really let go, it had to be now. Honestly, there really wasn’t much to acknowledge cause only few things really hurt me that deep. I wrote them down and stared at the page for long while. Long story short, I wrote the list and started feeling all the emotions I didn’t want to feel.
The affirmation was the hardest part for me cause it felt like I was making excuses and I’ve been trying to avoid doing that for a while. Finally got down to it. If I’m completely honest with myself, over the years I’ve learned and I’ve grown. I’ve made mistakes and I’ve been reminded time and time again just how human I actually am. Nobody is perfect and I should stop being so hard on myself. Moving on is tough but it’s definitely worth it. If God in His infinite mercy can forgive the worst sins, who am I not to forgive myself and others. It’s a fresh start. Life is about learning and learn I shall.
I think by the time I got to the final stage, I’d already accomplished the purpose for this exercise. Took me a while, but I finally get it. It’s all in the past. Life is less about the things that happen to you and more about your response to them. Burning the list reminded me of how God forgives our sins and places them in the “ocean of forgetfulness”, never to be remembered. It’s all in the past. Yesterday’s gone, today’s here! Make the most of it.
This would be a good time to remind myself of my personal mantra “Let go of the fear and embrace God’s grace so you can enjoy peace that passes all understanding”. Peace of mind above all else!!!
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

31DayReset – Day 27


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Day 27: REVIVE YOUR LOVE LIFE

This is another one of those exercises that made me laugh out real loud. I
don’t really know about this one. I’m not sure I’m ready for it and it’s honestly not because I’m holding on to past baggage or anything.
I’m sure I’ve said on here that I’m single by choice. Do I want a relationship? Yes. Am I ready for one? That’s a discussion for another day.
I’ve been working on certain areas of my life for a while now. And I know I don’t need to be perfect, but there’s no point going into something you’re not ready to handle yet. So, hopefully soon. 🙂
Something that made me laugh though were the suggestions that were given for finding someone new. I mean, I’m somewhat old school; Let me be found and wooed. Lol. I’m quite approachable (I think) and that’s enough.
My views on these things are for another post.
Looool I can’t even take myself seriously right now (you should read my journal, laughs for days). On to the next one.
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

31DayReset – Day 26


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Today’s Challenge: MAKE A NEW FRIEND
The idea is that through your new networks (support groups/community), you now have new opportunities for mutual support. The more like-minded people you align yourself with, the less lonely it will be on the road toward reaching your goals.

Some of these exercises make me laugh on first read. Make a new friend? Really? That simple, huh?! I’m sure I’ve said here that I need to make new friends. If it was that simple, I’m sure I’d make a new friend everyday. Problem is I’m very careful when it comes to making friends. I’ve been burnt and betrayed several times from “friendship”, I find it hard to really open up to people. Anyway, I’m quite determined to go though with this Reset and it’s not going to help me if I pick and choose the exercises to do. Trust issues aside, I’m going to make an effort.
There are a few females I admire from a distance and would probably make good friends. The plan is to show myself friendly (isn’t that what the Bible advices for anyone who wants to make friends? – Proverbs 18 : 24)
Also, by the time I join and become active in my support group, I’m sure I’d meet a few people I can connect with and then we’ll see how that goes.
Here I am, friend hunting. Wish me luck! Or hey, do you wanna be my friend? I’m nice I promise! 😀
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

31DayReset – Day 25


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Today’s Challenge: FIND A COMMUNITY TO SUPPORT YOUR GOALS.
Today’s exercise requires you to explore different groups that you could join as part of your personal development journey.

For a while now I’ve been searching for a support group and I couldn’t seem to find one. I’d asked around and all the groups I have been interested in are in Lagos. Well, as I thought about the exercise today and was almost going crazy from what appeared to be a futile search, it hit me; My Church back home runs a system that allows for support and affinity groups. This one is a lot different from the usual “Home Fellowship” in the sense that each group is purpose-driven and is based on various spheres of influence (e.g. Culture & Entertainment, Business & Economy, Sports, Politics & Government, Media, Spirtual & Social…).
No thanks to this NYSC program, I’ve been in and out of town for the past year so I couldn’t really participate in anyone. Well, the service year ends in a few days (yay!!!), then I return home. The plan is to sign up for one of these groups and hopefully it turns out well (will keep you posted).
I’m still seeking to join a book club though. Maybe I should just start one..lol.
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

31DayReset – Day 22-24


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Been super busy these past few days so couldn’t post. I’ve been faithful with doing each exercise and working on my journal though, just not had the time to type and post on the blog. Apologies.
Just got back home from a REALLY long day and I promised myself I’ll post all I owe today but I just can’t do individual challenges so I’d do a summary of the days I’ve missed. Bear with me please.

Day 22 – START A SIDE HUSTLE
Aside from my 9-5 job (I’m about to start at a new job), I need to start something on the side. Now for me, the plan to start the ‘side hustle’ and eventually grow it to become my full-time business. Before today’s exercise, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to starting a business again (had one before). Still creating a business plan and doing all the research I need. I’ve given myself a time-frame to finish with the plan and come up with the capital. So hopefully, before the time lapses it’ll be up and running.

Day 23 – PLAN YOUR RESET PROJECT
The exercise is to choose one specific area from your life map to make progress on within the next month. This should be from one of the sever major areas of your life.
For this month, I chose to focus on my health. I will be working to improve my health; Mind, Body and Soul, developing every aspect of it towards reaching my ideal like.
Why this project was selected:
I believe my health (every aspect of it) is the foundation for living the ideal life. If this aspect isn’t working, nothing else will make sense. I’ve always believed that my spiritual temperature is just as important, if not more so, than my physical well being.
Goals:
Mind – Develop and maintain emotional stability. Improve social interaction.
Body – Lose 10lbs, improve all-round physical fitness
Soul – Develop habits for spiritual maturity
Next Steps:
Mind – Place orders for books outlined in journal. Study said book. Review and apply. 20minutes of reflection/meditation daily.
Body – 1hour exercise daily. Start diet plan. Begin swimming lessons. Put MyFitnessPal to proper use.
Soul – Daily quite time. Personal Bible study.
All of the goals set out, are things I’ve been working on for a while now. I’d just like to have them properly working in my life before I take on any more challenges. So the next 30days are more like a consolidation phase (for most of the goals at least).

Day 24 – REST, REFLECT AND COMMENT
*phew*! This week has been tough. Don’t remember the last time I’ve been this busy. Been in three different cities during the last week. I feel like I spent most of week on the road or being stuck in traffic somewhere (*side eye at Lagosians who make it look so easy*). The next 8 days isn’t going to be any easier. Rounding up my Service year has been stressful so far and it’s not looking like I’m getting any respite soon. Oh well, looking at the bright side, it’s going to be over in 8 days. Whoopie!!!!!!!! I can’t wait for it to be over and get settled with life afterwards; new job and all.
I feel like my Reset program suffered a bit this week. There were times I couldn’t access my email, or couldn’t settle down to do the exercises until the end of the day. I’m glad I was determined to pull through though. Thankfully, I did all I was supposed to do. I realize that most of the challenges are not a “once for all time” thing, so hopefully I can make them habits as time goes on.
I learned a lot about letting go this week, of things and of people. Some of it wasn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be. And of course my favorite exercise was making the list of things that make me happy.
It’s been a week of learning, de-programing, being grateful, letting go, feeling… Roller coaster emotions and all. Some days I just wanted to give up. My accountability partners have been amazing without even knowing it. Praying for strength for the next set of challenges and exercises.

P.S. My love and prayers are still with friends and family of all victims of Sunday’s (03/06/12) plane crash. It seems everyone knew someone who knew someone in that crash. It’s been a gloomy week but I trust God to restore hope and help each one through their grief.
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

31DayReset – Day 21


Olá!
Today’s Challenge: STOP COMPLAINING FOR TWENTY-FOUR HOURS.
Today’s exercise requires you to monitor your own complaints and replace them with something more productive: gratitude.

Step 1:
Take your Reset notebook around with you today and write down every instance where you complain about something no matter how inconsequential it may seem.
Step 2:
For each instance, write down a statement of gratitude to combat the complaint. Think about the “silver lining” in each of your compliant.

I didn’t realize until today just how much there is to complain about. It’s either I have a problem or today was just an exceptionally crappy day.
My journal wasn’t with me at the time I got today’s email and I spent my entire day out of the house so I didn’t get a chance to properly carry out the exercise. I intend to do this again tomorrow but for today, here are a few examples of some of the things I complained about:
* Got to the bus park and complained about missing the first bus by a few minutes.
Silver lining: I got on the 2nd bus and picked the most comfortable seat.
* Waited for about 3hours for the bus to fill up.
Silver lining: I had enough free time to read part of one of the books I planned to read this week.
* Complained about the extremely hot weather
Silver lining: Grateful to be seated inside the bus and be a little shaded unlike those who were hawking at the park and had to do that directly under the sun.
* After a really tiring journey, I got down at the park and it immediately started raining.
Silver lining: I got a cab really quickly and it was quite affordable.
* Thanks to the rain, I couldn’t stop to get food on my way home and I was really hungry.
Silver lining: Grateful for the cookies and milk I had in the house.
* Sad news about the plane crash and lives lost
Silver lining: I couldn’t think of one for hours. Cried and prayed for most of the evening. Comforted (at least tried to comfort) a few friends who lost someone they knew in the crash. Grateful for family and friends still alive and for life in general.
Today was generally not a very good day, but I’m grateful for life and for the fact that there is hope.
I found myself complaining a lot today but the good news is I was able to stop myself several times from blowing a fuse and reflecting on things to be thankful for instead. A life of gratitude is awesome and that’s the way one should really live life. I’m going to make this a habit and remind myself to counter every negative thought with a positive one as often as possible. You should do it too.
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

31DayReset – Day 20


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Today’s Challenge: REMOVE NEGATIVE PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE

Isn’t it amazing how just yesterday I talked about deleting people from my Phonebook and Blackberry Messenger? This exercise wasn’t too difficult for me generally, because I do this on a regular. If I notice someone is always negative or constantly doing things that put me down or drag me further into a depressed state, I do everything possible to put a distance between us. The downside to this however, is that I have major trust issues and I hardly ever let anyone come close enough to have such an effect on my life. Still, I am working on myself as regard said trust issues and hopefully soon I’d be able to bring the ‘right people’ into the inner chambers of my heart.
I still went ahead to delete a few people that don’t add anything positive to my life. The hardest one was deleting an ex romantic partner. He doesn’t particularly do anything wrong but he’s always there as if we are still together. He’s been like an anchor. And I realized a little while ago that our ‘relationship’ is holding me back in more ways than I’d like to admit. I spoke to him about it then and we agreed to give ourselves some distance. We have been working on creating that distance for sometime now and I took the very bold step of deleting him from my BBM. (The whole matter is complicated and cannot be discussed on this platform. Although he lives in another continent and is involved with someone else, we still find ways to be more than what we ought to be for each other. This cannot be healthy so he’s gotta really go). It’s hard. Harder than it should be. I’m glad I decided to do this a while ago and I’ve been making progress in creating that distance. This action is just another step in the right direction.
Then finally, Twitter. Since I became somewhat active on twitter, I made it a point to follow the ‘right people’. If I follow someone and all they do is tweet negativity and gossip, I unfollow without much ado. I don’t follow too many people and I try to keep my Timeline relatively sane. I can’t control the foolishness that sometimes gets Retweeted into my TL but if one person is the constant RTer, then that one too will leave. For a while now, I’ve drastically reduced my use of the Social Network site and today I still did a bit more pruning, to ensure that the little time I spend there is healthy.
This is an ongoing exercise and I will continue to remove negative people from my life or put them as far away as possible.
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

P.S. This post was supposed to come up yesterday but events beyond my control made it impossible for me to do so.

31Day Reset – Day 18 & 19


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Day 18 and 19
I’ve been behind on my 31Day Reset and I thought to put up two days at the same time.
Day 18: DEVELOP A SELF-CARE PLAN.
The idea is to develop a plan for the next week. Putting proper care into how you will live your life for the next one week.
Next week for me will not be a typical week, I’m going to be out of town prepping to round up my service year. I don’t really know what the week would be like as I don’t yet have the schedule but I’m going to attempt to plan the part that I have control over.
Here goes:
*Stay off carbs completely for one week.
*Wake up earlier
*Spend one hour in fellowship with God
*Make up for Bible Reading Plan days I’ve missed
*Exercise every morning (jump rope and sit ups)
*Read two books.
*Complete my S.H.A.P.E. form.
*Continue to fill Reset journal and Food journal
*Take a water bottle with me when I leave the house (drink lots of water)

This is a habit I intend to form. The plan is to do this monthly, weekly, and daily. If I don’t take care of myself, who will? *wink*

Day 19: GET RID OF STUFF YOU DON’T NEED
Earlier this year, I took a few days and cleared my entire wardrobe. Gave out almost all my clothes and shoes. The hardest part was the shoes though. I’m a shoe lover and can be very impulsive when I shop for shoes. I end up buying a lot of shoes I don’t need and may never wear. Anyway, I gave out a lot of them earlier and watched my shoe rack go from “overflowing” to “almost empty”. I’m not home today and cannot do any more spring cleaning yet but I still have stuff I don’t need so I’m making plans to completely empty the rest of my wardrobe. I need a new wardrobe anyway so I’m making space.
I’m hoping that when I do go shopping soon, I’d only buy the things I need (I’m making a list). I love space so I don’t wanna overcrowd my room again.
I also need to get rid of some books. Now if you’re book lover like me, I know you’re probably thinking that’s not a very good idea. There are some books I could donate. I know I’d never read those books again and there are people who NEED them. I could always purchase more books. I’m not giving out my classics though… Lol. I wanna start a proper library so it’s best I make space for the books that should really be there.
A while ago I saw some pictures and cards from a previous relationship and I put them back neatly in the box and saved them again. *sigh* it’s probably time to let them go.
I’m also clearing my phone book and BBM contact list. This one is tough! But there are some people who need to leave my life so I’ve started deleting. Well, I can’t expect to receive something from God with closed fists, right? Gotta open them up and release what’s already in there. Make room for something new.
What do I feel right now? Relief? Freedom? Empty? I’m not sure. Ask me again tomorrow.
P.S. I’ve been thinking about going natural with my hair for a while now. I did the unthinkable. I cut my hair!!! I don’t know if I like my new look. I’m hoping I grow to love it soon. Lol. Good thing is, my hair grows fast. Bad news is, I’m still gonna have to cut some more cause I didn’t take it all off. So as soon as my natural hair grows to a certain length, the rest of it will have to go. Wish me luck!