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Twenty Six Before Twenty Seven


We are officially in my favorite month of the year (we’ve been for some days though x_x) yippeeeee!!! July’s here and this means my birthday is almost here.
Following last year’s trend, I will not spend my day wallowing in self pity and thinking of all the things I haven’t accomplished, instead, I’m going to remain grateful for what I have, enjoy what’s here and now, and make the most of opportunities as they present themselves.
I turn 26 on the 31st of this month. TWENTY-SIX!!!! Good Lord! When did I get here???? So yeah, like I said, this is a self-pity free zone.
I’m making a list of twenty six things I wanna do before I turn twenty seven… I’ll be leaving that here, crossing them off as I accomplish each one and sharing the journey with you. Most of what’s on this list are funzies I’ve been wanting to do for a while, some of them I’ve already started… We have 365 days to complete the task so in no particular order, *cue drum roll*

1. Learn to sew
2. Visit two new cities (local or otherwise)
3. Guitar lessons/get a new acoustic guitar
4. Start learning a new language
5. Attend a live concert
6. Upgrade the blog
7. Get that bikini bod!! -____-
8. Grow natural hair to BSL
9. Add color to hair *fingers crossed*
10. Upgrade cam to DSLR
11. Take a photography class
12. Read 50 new books (mostly fiction)
13. Learn to use photoshop
14. Start training for a marathon
15. Road trip!!!
16. Wine tasting/tour of a winery
17. Change location
18. Start my mini potted plants garden
19. Sing karaoke
20. Creative practice
21. Quit current job
22. Get my own space
23. Watch one live game at Old Trafford
24. Visit an art gallery
25. Busker!
26. Enjoy everyday of being 26!!!

There you have it. Twenty six “to-do” before I turn twenty seven… Wish me luck 😉

P.S. “Go on a blind date” was supposed to be on this list but errrmmm… We’ll see 😀

Update!


Hello there!
Feels like forever since I posted here… Funny thing is I’ve been doing a lot of writing these past couple of weeks, none of which will end up on this blog (maybe a few will… We’ll see). Do I really have much to update? I honestly don’t know but I’m sitting here in this conference room and I know I need a distraction from the boring meeting currently going on. Seizing this opportunity to just rant, maybe… And perhaps in the process make sense of this mess that is my life right now.
* I feel like I’m in that phase of my life where I’m just coasting. While it’s not necessarily a bad thing, I’m getting really bored of the monotony.
* My days in this office is slowly but surely coming to an end. Why am I not excited?
* I’m so busy these days it’s alarming. What’s even more alarming is the fact that at the end of the day, I’m not sure exactly what it is I’ve done or where the hours went. Everything’s just moving so fast.. Super fast.
* My days pretty much consist of work, church, home, more church, even more church, work again, write, sleep (read as try to sleep), restlessness and before you know it, morning! While I’m not complaining about all the church activities, I feel like I’m giving and giving and not exactly replenishing.
* I miss my daily quiet time. Like I said, I’m hardly getting enough sleep… Been feeling so restless lately. So after much tossing and turning in bed, I finally sleep for a few hours and I’m in no hurry to wake up or even when I wake up early enough, I’m too cranky to do anything worthwhile. I NEED A RETREAT!
* Speaking of retreats, I’ll be on leave in a few weeks. 30 days of no work! Whoop!!! There’ll be work though… Lol. I’ll find a way to take two weeks out of the town, turn off my phones and just be completely out of reach. Looking forward to that.
* Sorry about all the gloom in this post. My life isn’t so gloomy, I’m just being dramatic. There are good things happening this side of the universe. I’ll share as they unfold.
I miss posting stuff here!!! I should remedy that soon and fix my quiet time too… (And exercise x_x).
Glad I decided to do this now.. Feeling a lot better already. Time to pay attention to the people yapping around me 😀

P.S. I need y’all to put me in your prayers. Nothing specific… I just know I need all the prayers I can get.
*air kisses*
FutureNewYorker!

Update!


Hello there!
I haven’t done one of this in a while. No idea why. Anywho, here goes:
* Growing up is so overrated! A lot harder than it seemed years ago. So many decisions to be made and I have to live with the consequences no matter what they are.
* I don’t know how my mum does it but she’s amazing! The sacrifices that woman makes, I hope I can do half of that for my kids.
* I love my personal space too much. If there is one aspect of Christianity I would find hard to practice, it’d be opening up my home to people in need. The thing is, I want to help. I want my home to be that kind of refuge but it seems I only want this in theory. Mum has a house guest who needs a temporary place to live with her kids. I’m constantly forcing myself not to think of this arrangement as in inconvenience. I don’t like that I even think like this.
* I think I might be ready for love. Lol! That sounds somehow, no? Blame India Arie
* I usually get bored of people quickly (guys especially). It’s been about 3months of constant communication and I’m not bored, not even remotely so. Hmmm
* I absolutely love that I’ve been reading a lot this year, non-fiction mostly. Grateful for my kindle fire and all the amazing books I get to read (and for my brother who’s always buying me books ^_^).
* I’m learning that Christianity is a lot more than church and “organized religion”. I want to live the Christian life the way God actually intended.
* Somehow, I haven’t been as prayerful as I’d like. I have absolutely no idea why. I still spend a lot of time studying scriptures and using my devotionals but praying in itself is just hard for me these days.
* I am this close to turning in my resignation at work. The only thing stopping me is that I haven’t fine-tuned my alternative yet. I can confidently say now though, that the 9-5 corporate world is not for me.
* I wish I could take a year off to just explore my artistic side. I haven’t had the opportunity of doing a lot of things and I really want to do them before I get to a certain age. I may not make a career out of it but at least let me try.
* I haven’t kept a journal in a while. I want to do a challenge. Something like the 30days reset I did last year… Haven’t decided which yet though. If you have any ideas, let me know? Thanks
* Healthy eating and exercising pays loads. Loving my new look! I get compliments everyday!!! Time for a wardrobe change again though, sigh.
* I’m happy… For no apparent reason. I just am.
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

God Has A Sense Of Humor


Hi everyone!
I’ll just get right into it..
Sometime last year, I mentioned that there was something God had been telling me to do that I didn’t want to do. Well, here’s the break down: I used to sing. Like everyone who knows me would agree that I’m a music head, but what a lot of people wouldn’t know is that I actually can carry a tune and I’m pretty decent. So yeah, I used to sing in church and was a lead vocalist for years until something happened, someone hurt me real bad and I just quit. I mean just like that I gave up something that meant a lot to me. I reasoned that my profession (Law) won’t even allow me do music on a larger scale so there was no point pursuing it.
For a really long while I just let my talent die and I stood on the sidelines and admired people doing what I once used to do.. After a while my passion turned to indifference.
Anyway, last year God started speaking to me about going back to music and I resisted it big time. I just wasn’t ready and no one was going to make me. This struggle went on for months and I mostly just ignored it. Then random people started talking to me about it, even people who didn’t know me when I used to sing and had no inkling. Some would even see me in their dreams.. Lol. God meant business yo! And He so doesn’t fight fair. Anywho, I finally gave in to it and just yielded. I knew it would be pretty tough and after the first few weeks, I quit again. I began talking to God about it all the time and finally found the courage to go back. So, in November last year, I went back to the choir in my church albeit on part time basis. Last week in December, as I was writing my goals for 2013, I wrote down that I really wanted to take music seriously in church and prayed for grace.
Fast forward to January 5th 2013, I was in church for a meeting (totally unrelated to this one) when I got a message that the church was forming a new music band separate from the mass choir. The new band will be in charge of all Sunday services and church programs and the Mass choir would only function on “special occasions”. Now here’s the twist, guess who was selected to head this new band? Yep! Yours truly! As soon as I got the message, I just started laughing. I mean God does have a sense of humor!!! Like, He’s not even giving me a chance to chicken out. He’s saying, “you wanna be serious with music, no? Well, here’s your chance”. I was almost going to reject the position but I thought about it and yes, it’s a challenge but I welcome it.
I trust that God has a purpose for this and the last few weeks have been hectic but I know He won’t give me more than I can handle. So yeah I’ll give this my best shot. I won’t even lie, it’s challenging but I’m enjoying myself so much. It’s amazing how everything else fades away as soon as I start to worship. I just get transported to a different world. And knowing that one person is being blessed is beyond fantastic. I’m truly grateful for this opportunity.

Don’t know why I felt the need to write this today. Maybe someone will read this and be encouraged to do or embrace something they’ve been running away from. Remember we are only stewards of all that we’ve been given, including our gifts and talents, and God is going to ask us what we have done with what we’ve been given. Make the most of every opportunity, no matter how seemingly insignificant or grand. Ask God for help and trust Him to help you. And if you don’t know where or how to begin, ask Him for opportunities and He’ll give them to you. Keep your mind open, you just never know.
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

2012 – I Do Not Forget!


Hello!
We are finally coming to the end of 2012… Honestly, I don’t know how I feel about this. Am I ready for the year to end? There’s still so much I want to do before 2013 comes around. 2012 has been good, more than good, but not as great as I planned. Am I being ungrateful for saying that? I don’t know. I just know there are a lot of things I didn’t accomplish this year, a lot of places I didn’t go, targets I didn’t meet up with. The strangest thing though is that somehow, I feel more at peace now than I was at the beginning of the year. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t fully imbibed the “peace of mind over everything” mantra, but I’ve made significant progress so that’s a good thing. I am making progress.
I am grateful for quite a number of things this year. This morning, I took out my old journal where I wrote down my goals for 2012… I didn’t get to cross off a lot of goals from the list and usually that would leave me depressed but it’s amazing that there are a lot of things I accomplished that weren’t on the list. So yay!!!
I’m thankful for 2012… It’s the year of preparation.
I DO NOT FORGET – I’m thankful.
* For full recovery from surgery and for the scars that are a reminder of a battle fought and won.
* For favor as I wrapped up my service year
* For the end of a relationship that wasn’t leading anywhere and strength to move on from it, and the lessons learned
* For constant provision.. It wasn’t a year of extraordinary abundance, but my needs were met at the nick of time
* For all the travel opportunities within the Country.. There’s true beauty in Nigeria
* For my job. A lot of the people I served with are still without a job, I got one on a platter
* For twitter and all the incredible people I met this year
* For new music, books, gifts
* For the book that saved me this year “Lady In Waiting”
* For all the information I had access to this year and learning opportunities
* For my 25th birthday..
* For Joey and his homecoming
* For accountability partners
* For mentorship
* For all my friends (too numerous to mention)
* For the 31-day reset
* For weight loss and healthy living
*For This Blog and the outlet it provides
* For growth, in more ways than I can count
* For God – He found me and loved me

Wait, did I say this year wasn’t great? I take that back. 2012 has been an awesome year, I expect 2013 to be even more challenging but He’s been preparing me sooooo… Bring it on!
EVERYTHING GOOD WILL COME

Update!


Hello there!
It’s been quite an exciting week for me. Lots of new experiences, learning, meeting new people, planning and interesting conversations. Here’s a quick update:
1. I mentioned earlier that I was part of a 3-day management training organized at work. It was a great opportunity to interact with staff from the Head Office. I think the best part for me were the conversations I had with colleagues during the breaks and of course helping my team win the final presentation.
2. My leave officially starts on Monday. Whoop!!!! No work for the next two weeks, I’m so excited.
3. Heading out of town tomorrow. Not like I have much of a vacation planned but I guess it’ll do me some good to just get out of town for a while. At least, I get to see a few friends.
4. Despite my very busy schedule this past week, I was still able to finish two books from my list, and start a third.
5. India Arie has so many beautiful songs.
6. I really hope Ese Peters (Nigerian singer/songwriter) gets the recognition he deserves as an artist. As much as I love music, I hardly ever listen to our local artists. He’s one of the few that make it worth it for me. Very beautiful songwriter.
7. Sometimes, crying can be such a relieving experience! After bottling up all those emotions, opening the dam and letting go of the waterworks is wonderful. I did that yesterday at the most unusual place and in the presence of a random person. I felt so light afterwards, there are no words to quite explain it. The most amazing part of it was that our random friend just held me till I was done. Not a sensual/sexual kind of holding/cuddling. This was different. He just let me cry and didn’t start probing. Ah-may-zing!
8. Finally, *cue drum roll* I have cut off my hair!!! Yes I did the big chop today. Yes I’ve been postponing it. Yes I’m a chicken. Lol.. Well, it’s done and I look like I’m back in primary school. I don’t LOVE the new look, but I don’t hate it either. I’m sure it’ll be a slow and steady love affair. I’m proud of myself though. I would post a picture, but I’m sorta, kinda shy x_x

Have a great weekend people. You’re only young once!
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

Update!


Hey everyone!
How’s it going with you? It’s been quite a busy week and a lot’s been happening with me lately, things that I may share in the near future. In the meantime, this is a quick update.
* At the beginning of this month, I was so excited about life and living and I tagged it “Happy September”. So whenever something was going wrong and I was losing my joy, I’d remind myself “Happy September” and refuse to be depressed. The last 10days have been HARD!
* Everyone seems to me moving these days. Not everyone really, but two of my closest friends have left the country for further studies in the last couple of weeks. I miss them a great deal already.
* I seem to be making a lot of progress at work. I’m the only lawyer in my department so I’m kinda like the go-to person whenever there’s an issue. Been taking my team on several trainings, 30 minutes before proper work begins everyday. Next week, I get to train Management for 4hours. That’s so rad!!!!! *fist pump*
* Also about work, the Director General of my commission will be visiting my zonal office for the first time next week, guess who is writing the welcome address? Yup! 😀
* You know how you feel like you’re in control of a particular habit or something like that until you’re faced with serious temptation? It’s hard! But I know I’m not fighting alone so this too shall pass.
* I hate it when two people don’t get along and you’re friends with both of them. I don’t want to have to choose sides. Why can’t everyone just get along? Sigh
* You know the internet-fast I did earlier this month, I should do it again. Social media is overrated! Maybe I came back too soon. Even with the new twitter account and following just a handful, I’m still disappointed that there’s way too much negativity in the world.
* I learned a lot about myself this month. It’s shocking I didn’t know some of these stuff before now. Some of the new info is kinda hard to deal with. Is it possible to change or at least control some aspects of your personality? Will that make me less me?
* I love my brother! This shouldn’t be an issue, right? It’s funny that I resented him for years. We’ve had drama as I’m sure most siblings do but now, I can honestly, wholeheartedly say I love my brother! This excites me.
* I’ve always had more male friends that female. It’s always been easier for me to relate with guys. I just found out something that makes me want to question every (or almost all) friendship I have with the opposite sex. So unfair!
* There’s something God has told me to do and He’s been telling me for a while now. I honestly don’t want to do it cause I know it’d be really hard. The funny thing is this month, I’ve had several people tell me they saw me in their dream, doing that very thing! Now when someone walks up to me and says “I saw you in my dream” or “God says to tell you…” I already know where they are going. God doesn’t play fair. Anyway, I yield. I’m going to do it and trust that His grace is sufficient for me. I’m gonna need y’all to keep me in your prayers. I don’t want to change my mind again.
* Today, I’m grateful for the gift of hearing and the ability to appreciate good music. What are you grateful for?

Have an awesome day!
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

Update!


Hello!!!
Welcome to September! Wow! Is it just me or this year is moving really fast? Can’t believe we are in September already. I do have a lot to be thankful for. Just few months ago, I was complaining and whining about NYSC and counting the days till it’ll be over and now I’m complaining about the stress of work, colleagues and bosses. Life really does move on!
* This year has been one of growing and learning and moving on and more learning. I’ve grown more in the last nine months than I have in the last five years put together. I’m glad.
* Still speaking of learning, I’ve learned a lot about myself in the last month. For instance, I’ve learned that I find it really easy to have deep conversations with ‘strangers’ or people I just met. I’m not exactly sure if it’s a good or bad thing but I know I’m comfortable with it. Not random strangers though, there should be a common ground of course.
* I’m back on my diet, yay! This time though, the focus is more on healthy living. I got lots of books on physical fitness, health and healthy living. I’ve been putting the points into practice and can I just say I feel fantastic! Funny enough, people notice and they all wanna know the secret. I’m gonna start charging for consultation really soon. Lol.. I even got my mum to start focusing on her health, that’s a MAJOR achievement. 😀
* I’ve got my reading mojo back!!!
* I made a new friend this month. I AM MAKING PROGRESS! *huge grin* Unfortunately, she isn’t in the same town but I’m glad still.
* I like to share. Whatever it is, I just want to share; information, food, gifts, anything. It makes me happy. (That’s another thing I’ve learned about myself)
* I’m actually enjoying exercising. Like! Me, loving exercises?! It’s a miracle! Did I already say that? I prayed about it and God answered me. Yippie!!!
* Don’t know if I’ve mentioned it here that I keep a journal specifically for writing letters to God. Well, I do and it’s the most beautiful thing ever. There are times I don’t feel like praying or can’t find the words, I just realized that I find it really easy to write down my thoughts to Him and that’s PRAYER! 🙂
Oh there’s so much more I want to say. I’m suddenly excited! It’s a good day. It’s gonna be an awesome month.. I can feel it strongly in my bones. God is faithful!

This blog isn’t exactly secret anymore, lol. I get a lot of emails from readers these days, it’s shocking. So a big thank you to everyone who’s been following my journey. Thanks for the comments, emails, following the blog and bookmarking this page. I’m glad there are people out there who connect with me. God bless you!
Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

Update!


Hello there!
Welcome to a new month. Hmmm the month of August, not my favorite month in the year. August hasn’t ever been particularly bad to me, I just don’t like the sound of it. Maybe cause of the names children born in this month are given: Augustine, Augusta and the likes. I mean, why in God’s name will you name your daughter Augusta?! I kid, or not. I know a lot of awesome people born this month though, so no hating. We love August! Yay! Moving on…
I am beaming. Beaming from all the love and laughter and sunshine from my birthday yesterday. I didn’t know I was that loved. Why y’all been keeping the love to yourselves huh? I practically had to threaten some of you to send your entries yesterday… Lol. In all, it was a good day. Scratch that, an awesome day! Possibly my best birthday ever! Nothing spectacular happened per se, but I don’t remember the last time I wasn’t depressed on my birthday. I’m still overwhelmed, I am loved. 😀 Team happy people. We choose happy!
So, my new job is stressful! Okay, I know it’s too soon to say anything really but these people are not playing at all. Already dishing out assignments like it’s no man’s business (what does that even mean?). I do like the work environment though, it’s friendly and warm, and everyone seems at ease. Yay. I don’t like that I’m gonna have to be corporately dressed all the time. Come on people, it’s 2012 – smart casual for the win. What’s with all the suit wearing? -_-
Thanks to the new job schedule, I have to cut down on a lot of other things. It’s so unfair. I wanna explore, I wanna travel, I wanna learn new things, endless adventure. Sigh… I don’t see myself doing this for very long.
July, I was so lazy with my diet and general healthy living. I’m ashamed to even say. I didn’t put on any extra pounds but I didn’t lose any either. I have to fix up this month. I just signed up to work out at the stadium and use their equipment.
Tennis is hard! That’s all
The acoustic guitar is such a sexy instrument. Lovely sound. Strings.. Beautiful.
I need to learn new words. My vocabulary is becoming quite boring.
I got new books! ^_^
Paid for a weekend getaway later this month. I hope I can make it.
Still too scared to do the major big chop on my hair. Why won’t my hair just magically grow so I can cut off the relaxed part? I know, be patient. Soon.
Met two fabulous people last weekend. I’ve “known” them for a while but we finally physically met a few days ago. I’m making new friends!!! Yay me!
God is a faithful lover. My first husband. I know it sounds weird but hopefully I can explain it soon.
Forget what I said earlier, August is a wonderful month. Just you wait and see.

Kisses,
FutureNewYorker!

Update!


Hello there!
First, it’s a new month. July is finally here! Yay!!! Okay I know it’s already a few days into the month but it’s my birth month so allow me to be super excited. In a matter of weeks, we shall be celebrating this awesome work of God’s creation that is me *huge grin*… Lol. I don’t usually make a fuss about my birthdays but this is a milestone age so I just might do something.
Secondly, sorry I haven’t posted in a while (this should have come first but I’m just too excited about this month), there’s been a lot going on with me and I needed some time to sort myself out.
I haven’t resumed yet at the new job. Resumption was moved up again by two weeks. I didn’t like it at first but it’s a good thing cause it gives me more preparation time.
I’m using my free time to learn a craft I’ve always been interested in. I know two weeks is not enough to even scratch the surface but I wanna give it a try and see if I’m talented at all in this regard.. So fingers crossed.
Signed up for piano lessons a while back and was to start class last week but the instructor was AWOL… *sigh*. Anyway, I’d been considering taking up acoustic guitar instead so maybe that was a sign? I’m going to sign up for guitar lessons this week and see how it goes.
Thanks to recent weight loss, I’ve emptied my closet. I have absolutely nothing to wear out of the house. I need to do some major shopping before work resumes but this lassie is currently low on funds. Hoping for a MAJOR miracle.
This past week, I realized just how much of a challenge drinking water can be. I’ve always thought I drink a lot of water, at least more than a lot of people I know. I decided to take account of how much water I actually drink daily, was shocked to find out it was only about 60% of my target. I’m now consciously drinking more water everyday. The first few days was sorta hard cause of the frequent bathroom breaks. Thankfully, I’m doing better now. I think my body is adjusting.
So I’ve been thinking about going completely natural on my hair for a while now. Chopped off a lot of my hair a few weeks ago but still have relaxed hair on my head. The natural part of my hair is soooooo short I’m scared of what I’d look like when I take out the relaxed part in a few weeks. I’m thinking of doing it just before my birthday so it comes off as a dramatic new-year-new-look kinda thing…lol. Wish me luck.
Here’s hoping you have an amazing week and an awesome month. God bless you.
Kisses!

P.S. I’ve been reading this book for single ladies “Lady in Waiting” by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones. It’s been amazing! I recommend it to every single lady (even if you’re in a relationship but still unmarried you should read it). I got the expanded edition that includes the Journal and Study Guide. It’s a worthy experience.